Definition Of Success - Is There One?

 

Success can mean so many things to different people.

A few years back I was visiting a family gathering. while taking my leave my relative asked "so how will you go back?" "Oh, I have my car" 'Good. Which one?"

So if you look at the seemingly innocent conversation, it was not innocent at all, there is a lot of calculation behind the "innocent question".

Few years back maybe the definition of success was:

1. Owning a house

2. Owning a Car 

3. Not just owning a car, but also "what kind of" car

4. Marital Status

5. Income of spouse / Status of Spouse

Today, when I look around, this generation has lost meaning of "relationship". Relationships have gone from commitment to casual relationships to hook-ups.

Health - Many teenagers today are obese and suffer from diabetes, a 35 year old suffering a heart-stroke.

So I guess today being successful could mean - and again, this is just a perspective - Successful means being content with what you have  (note I did not say 'Happy'),  being together with a family and truly "want to be together" and not just bound because of society or forced to live together because of kids), being healthy, having something to look forward to, be able to purse your passion at 50

Did I miss anything else? Do add in the comments section, what's your take on Success?

All About Process Flows

 

DISCLAIMER: This information is not intrinsic or classified organization data but is a generic process flow to showcase single, bi-drectional relationship between objects in Salesforce Architecture using Process Flows

What Kind Of People I Like & What Kind of People I Avoid

 I am naturally attracted to hardworking people

I like people who treat other people with respect

I like People who are not on a Power Trip

I am attracted by people who are successful - Success attracts me

I like people who have a Goal in their life

I like people who are driven

I like People who are Passionate - Regardless of whatever your profession might be

I like people who are not pretentious

I like people who are warm hearted

I like simple people with humble needs

I like my sambar-rice and fryums - I can easily fit into Oberoi as I equally love having sambar-dipped Idly at Udupi hotel

Simplicity attracts me

I like people who have decency to give a bare minimum respect and reciprocate with a "Thank You" and not take everyone for granted

I like those Rs.200 earrings from pavements, I like those nukkad ke novelty stores to buy bindi/bangles, than shopping at Malls

I like a warm home filled with love, care and respect for each other rather than a home-decor filled with antiques, a soul-less house

I believe in the power of relationships - Clients/Partners/Friends/Family - I try my level best to keep my relationships - And when I turn my back it's only because I have nothing left in me to give anymore and I am truly tired of trying

I like people who are really invested in others

I am inclined to spirituality - To some extent our rituals - Well, as a working mum I try to fit in as many rituals I can while running the home-ship

I like people with a Zest for living - You know those videos / Reels on Instagram that you are naturally drawn to? An 80 year old dancing salsa, an old couple dancing in the rain, walking barefoot in the woods, cut-down the noise and tune-into those 90s music - you know because these are real people ,real feelings, and that's why these get through to you

Don'ts

I don't like people who just live and have no dreams, no goals

I don't like people who judge everything with money - "I have an iphone and it's so important that I write about it in my Bio"

I don't like people who are lazy - With no sense of purpose in life

I don't like people with no ambition

I don't like people who steal other's people's credit

I don't like people who value money and position above all

I don't like Flamboyant

I don't believe in belittling someone to make yourself look good - Eventually you will fall face down

I don't like Flattery

I don't like Fake, I don't know about you but if I don't like a person, I won't even bother with a "Hi"

Vibe With Positivity

 Itna Muskurao ki Zindagi bhi thak-haar kar tumhaare saath muskuraane ke liye majboor hojaye..

Late Post - Letting Go

 On this auspicious ocassion of Navratri, I am strongly feeling this, so much so that I had to pen down my thoughts..

I am feeling that I am myself again after a really long time..The real me - The real true-self - The one who can burst into a random song, insanely happy, dancing in my room, recording songs, penning down my thoughts, learning something new on Salesforce, reading a book, back on my fitness track, I feel closer to God, there is clarity in my thoughts, and finally letting go.....

All those who hurt me, there must be a reason you did what you did - I forgive you, I love you, God Bless you,

I let go of all my negative thoughts

I accept people with open arms, the way they are

I will not judge people and I hope that you too will accept me, may I add, with all my flaws : )

Life is too short to hold grudges

I do not hate anyone neither do I despise anyone

I am not envious of anyone

I know what is mine will come to me..eventually....when the time is right...

If you like someone, go ahead and express your feelings, the worst thing is they could say is No, and that's perfectly alright..Because ..Kisko pata, Kal ho na ho...the song seemed so right in between these lines...haha

...and I know you are beginning to think is she turning into Mother Theresa...no, I am not..I'm just my old self again..and it's such a relief of having found yourself again...

I know I am not beautiful

I may not even be someone with high intellect

But you know I am me, and I like being me

But I inherit my father's big big big heart, ....a happy heart

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HUPB_X2qE4I

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HUPB_X2qE4I

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6AIa3kdKFhg

 

 

Not so long ago, I had sent a congratulatory message to a very senior person on LinkedIn. I had worked with this person on one project. It was not a pleasant meeting. It was an Escalation call. The context of the call was why did the project go wrong, why isn't the client happy.  I congratulated him on his recent accomplishment. And as usual, as most senior people do he was polite enough to reply and his response ended with the sentence - Hope you are doing well.

I wanted to sound intelligent, smart, serious, I wanted my message to give a sense that I was doing well. But what I wrote was more of a verbal vomit - A volley of non- sequenced statements - I said something like - i am reading a lot of books, snippet below: Try not to laugh. I was being Ernest in my quest and as honest as possible . 

 I am reading Management books. 2. Blogging - I pen down my thoughts (but they are private as everything I write is not about Salesforce) to improvise on vocabulary. 3. Vlogging - ....

Since the time the message hit the send button I felt stupid, silly and needless to say embarrassed. So today I wrote one more message, a shorter one this time to say how embarrassed I felt and with a promise that if someone asks me 'Hope all is well with you' I will as a thumb rule, stick to a one-liner 'I ma doing well, thank you."

Independence Day - Created & Edited By Sushma Tiwaari